How do you break free of wrong thinking and that things see below?

I know you are asking this primarily of christians, but I will tell you my perspective anyway. God does nothing to us. When we have problems in life it is because we were meant to experience that for greater learning. I don't even think it's personal, because we all have our stuff to go through. If you are having a rough time it isn't because you are not deserving of good things...it is because there is something there for you to learn so you will grow spiritually and come closer to God. Those tough times are really blessings if we can see them that way.